Hate Love because husband had an affair, Divorce Should Not?

a year ago I found out my husband was having an affair with a female colleague. She was 8 years old and older who do not have a good life, in the sense of love mutually couples. And we already know well, it's like a sister to me and my husband. She also knows how to love my husband.

My household was never a problem, but he accidentally trap husbands until they touch as much as 2 times at the woman's house. But every time I met her, her husband is always drunk because if conscious, the husband would not want to.

The affair lasted only two weeks. After I asked the husband to be honest, my husband prefers it turns out. But what made the pain was because I had never suspected them, she assured me that there is nothing between her and her husband.

I then ventured with her husband to meet her at her house. Although she could avoid it, my husband and asked him not to disturb our household. Husband had regretted his actions, he tried to restore my confidence. But my heart still hurts and always haunted by the affair, on the other hand I still love him.

Sometimes I hate to see her husband, sometimes also want to forgive him. I feel like an insane person, hate and love at the same time. That so my current weight is I can not share with mom and dad because they certainly shock.

I lost my concentration and confidence. Sometimes

Answer

were well, I'm sorry your situation. You say there is still hurt over the affair, but still loved her husband. Things like this certainly make you less likely to dilemmas and productive with your life.

Let me invite you to do a reality check and evaluate realistic conditions. So despite the bitter and painful, but psychologically we are faster 'cured' of the dilemma and the negative feelings that hinder our productivity.

# Realitas1
Infidelity occurs because both parties, both men and women, making it happen. So even though she was good or bad (according to your description), your husband also wants this to happen.

# Realitas2
If your husband really trapped by the conditions heavy hangover, a husband should not be able to have sex. It's hard erections in men capable drunk condition, let alone intercourse.

# Realitas3
Your husband's infidelity drama show your household has a buried problem before.

Assessing the reality is, you have 2 choices of solving the problem, but the important thing you should be able to forgive your husband first.

Option 1
You still love him and want to keep the wedding because they love each other be able to trust her husband again. Go on a honeymoon alone, talking heart to heart what happened and how so you can both equally happy.

Tell me what you can do to make your husband happy and well you ask what you can do to please her husband. Make a commitment to a new marriage. find a marriage counselor to help restore your relationship.

Option 2
You have forgiven, still loved, but can not afford to trust your husband again. So the final solution is completely divorced fine.

Important note for you, save your marriage if you want to save your child. Ask nicely, if your husband really still want this marriage? Because it's useless if only one person who is committed.

Find the best solution for both parties to be happy, either together or separately, it is better for single parents who are happy than parents complete the ongoing fighting. Think carefully, get divorced as the final solution if all else has been tried and fought.