He finished the music and candles are being consumed. You feel very well. Is enjoying sex as usual to do: the closeness, the give and take, the passion. But when you want to get to the climax, you speed up. Nothing. What's going on? When he was 20 he spent his time trying to keep, and now ... can not.
Do not worry. You are not alone. Many men age 50 and older experience difficulty with orgasm and ejaculation (in English), says Dr. Louanne Weston, a sex therapist. According to a study, the problem affects 16% of men when they turn 60 years, 23% of men between 65 and 74 years, and 33% of men aged 75 and over.
The good news is that, generally, these difficulties can be resolved. The first step is to understand why this problem occurs. Possible causes include:
Aging. '' As men age seen your penis needs more stimulation to ejaculation occurs,'' says sex therapist, Dr. Dennis Sugrue. '' This is normal, but often is disconcerting.'' Age also weakened pelvic floor muscles, whose contractions trigger ejaculation. When these muscles weaken, semen dripping orgasms and might cause some pleasure.
Health disorders. Neurological disorders (diabetes, paraplegia, multiple sclerosis) can damage the nerves that control orgasm. Surgery for benign enlargement of the prostate (in English) has no effect on orgasm, but eliminates premature.
Drugs. Antidepressants are known to impair sexual performance. Alcohol is more associated with erectile dysfunction, but in some people, cause orgasm problems. Other medications may also influence, such as analgesics (Aleve, Naprosyn), anti-anxiety drugs (Xanax, Valium) and blood pressure medications and psychiatric disorders, among others.
Stress. Sex therapists say that there are several factors that cause emotional stress, such as: anger against the partner, fear of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections, or too fundamentalist upbringing. '' I've seen ejaculation problems related to a strict upbringing, whether Catholic, Protestant or Jewish, "says Weston.'' The problem is not religion.'s Fundamentalism."
Give pleasure. Making love is giving and receiving pleasure, but some men believe that their only task is to give. '' When a man pays much attention to the experience of your partner and not enough to his, lost concentration in the erotica, which can interfere with orgasm and ejaculation,'' says sex therapist Marty Klein.
Check with your doctor. Your doctor should investigate possible infections, medication problems, pain or neurological problems. If the problems are caused by an antidepressant, ask if you can change it to one that is less likely to impair sexual performance.
Practice Kegel exercises. These simple exercises and discrete tone the pelvic floor muscles, thereby intensifies orgasm and ejaculation is strengthened. Ask your doctor instructions, or search online exercise videos.
Rate our erotic context. Young men can perform sexually under almost any circumstance. But after 50, the context becomes increasingly important. Identify what is the best sexual position for you and work with your partner to find.
Value your own pleasure. You are more than the person that gives pleasure. You also deserves erotic satisfaction and has every right to ask for the stimulus that produces it. If you still have vaginal, may not give enough stimulation to achieve ejaculation. "You may need manual or oral stimulation vigorous'' says Klein.'' If so, let him.''
Teach your partner. Show your partner exactly what works for you and teach it to do so. You may feel shy to have to prove something that is usually private. But in doing so not only teaches your partner what you need, but will also be a revelation to you, which will deepen the intimacy of the relationship.
Breathe deeply. Deep breathing relaxes the nervous system so erotic stimulation can trigger orgasm and ejaculation.
Focus on fantasies. Remember sexual fantasies that have driven in the past. Develop them. No need to include a partner. Only have to excite. Or try X-rated videos
Use lubricant. Sex lubricants genitals make them more sensitive to touch and often help men who have sexual problems.
Consult a sex therapist. If self-help does not provide enough relief, usually sex therapists can help men to resolve any problem. To find a sex therapist near you, visit the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (link in English of the American Association of educators, counselors and sex therapists), the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (link in English Society of therapy and sex research) or the American Board of Sexology (link in English of the American Board of Sexology).
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